This week's class topic was conflict resolution. Between watching the episode of The Office, the lecture on conflict resolution, and the group activity titled Lost At Sea, what are some of the most important aspects of conflict resolution that you learned this week? Discuss a conflict that you were currently involved with. What was the conflict about? Who was it with? How did you resolve the conflict? Did someone win? Did someone lose? Or was there some type of compromise?
This blog reflection is due at 11:59PM on Monday, May 7, 2012.
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I had a problem with my roommate ever since the beginning of school year. I personally don't like sharing my stuff unless I'm close to the person but I wouldn't mind if she asked me for a permission before she uses my things when I'm not there but she never did. She always used my water boiling thing without a permission and I thought that was disrespectful. I was always questioning, since she uses my stuff when I'm not there, what if she goes over my stuff too. I never really had a trust for her and she also took my earrings. First few times it happened, I never really confronted her about it because I didn't want to be on bad terms with her but when she stole my clothes, I finally got mad and confronted her. I usually hold all the angers till I can't and that's when I blow up. I give people enough chances but I feel like people don't notice that cause I'm always nice to them.
ReplyDeleteWhat I learned thru this lesson is it's always the best if you guys have a good start with good communications. make rules for each other and if she doesn't follow the rules, instead of being mad at her, talk to her nicely and hope she understands where you're coming from.
Right now, we're not in a good term because she keeps disrespecting me and I feel like she has her own personal problems. In this case, I think Avoiding would be the best. we only got couple weeks anyways,
I deleted her on facebook because I felt like she's watching me sometimes but yeah I can't wait to get over it and sometimes if you don't get along well with the person, it's better if you have a distance. it's them who got issues, not you. in every situation, being a bigger person is the key.
Whenever I have a conflict with someone whatever it is, sometimes I may be right sometimes I may be wrong. But whatever the case is I like to settle it right there, and not drag it on and make any unneeded drama. The most recent conflict that I had was with my room mates. I live with 5 other people and sometimes the house can get a bit crowded. Almost every day I come home someone has invited a friend over or something, and sometimes There are the same people here every single day. Sometimes I like to just come home from work and not have anyone here, and just relax for a bit in my own living room. but lately that has not been able to happen. That has also become an issue with groceries, My roommates invite people over a lot more than i have people over, and sometimes that are all hanging out in the kitchen eating food that I bought. Me and my room mates are pretty open with our food we share a lot of it, like we all decided that we would share the essentials, like bread milk, eggs, butter, like the simple basic stuff. But other stuff that is like a meal or dessert or whatever should be saved for whoever bought it. so anyway, their friends are eating my food slot and so finally I started saying something to them, Like hey, did you or your friends eat my ice cream? or whatever it is.. and thats really the best way to resolve the issue. I could've just went back later and drank all her juice that was in the fridge and called it even, but that would've prolonged the problem. I just confronted them and they apologized, and acknowledged what they did, and we corrected it and just moved on. In this case The final solution was a compromise, there was no winning or losing in this one.
ReplyDeleteMy biggest conflicts are usually with myself. Most everything else seems light hearted and ridiculous once I deal with those. I can be very evil to myself if I'm not routinely checking and balancing all of my alter egos.
ReplyDeleteAt home there is the constant conflict of my not believing in God and my mother being incapable of processing anything I say to make my philosophy clear to her -but I noticed that this situation between us seemed to get magically better when I started getting positive social recognition for thinking, creating, behaving, and dressing as I do. I always had a suspicion that her beliefs were hardened more by majority belief rather than any other factors; so I am winning a little bit, but it is a work in progress. She is still of the opinion that I need to submit and obey more readily, just she holds her tongue about it for the most part.
Recently I've kept to a certain strategy for dismissing needless conflict with people: Be patient, listen to everything they say, then decide whether or not it is even important to convince them that they are wrong. If someone is wrong and it is to their own disadvantage but not mine, I may try to give them hints about how to get better results, but more often than not, I shrug and say, "I have work to attend to." If someone is wrong and their decision affects MY future then we have a real issue, but usually the best I can do is to continue doing things my own way whenever it is my turn to act. I have been wrong in very special circumstances, so I always second- and triple- guess my own actions and motives. Happily I've had a streak of good decisions lately, and any that were less than perfect were not very harmful.
A While ago, I had a conflict between with my roommate's boyfriend. Since I live in a dorm, there are no other rooms for self privacy. My roommate is nice and fun but her boyfriend came to my room almost everyday. As my bed was the first bunk so everyone could see me straight away when they come into my room. First few weeks, I didn't really care whether her friends come for chill. But as he's a boy it made me uncomfortable. In my mind, I wanted to yell at him to get out of my room but as my personality I can't really do that. Also when I get angry I suppress unless I'm really pissed off. However, the last time he came to my room he was being disrespectful. He act like my room as his room such as opening window because he was hout but i wasn't, without permission and throwing his shoes like normally he would do in his room. Then I said to him to get out of my room, because he stayed for long time and I needed my own private time. Maybe same as Grace, he didn't notice I was angry about him because I wasn't showing my expression to him.
ReplyDeleteSo in this class, I've learned that it's better to show my direct expression which will not make myself to stressed out. And I say there's no judgement who win or lose. It's equally the same. Because it's not only their fault but also me, that's because how it became to be conflict.
The most important points on conflict resolution I got from the class were basically that out of the 4 possible outcomes, only one is Win-Win, so with the other 3 someone has to lose, except in the case of Compromise, where both people win and lose. As for a recent conflict, I don't honestly have many conflicts. However one that occurred recently was regarding a trip to Korea I plan to take this summer, specifically regarding the funding for it. As of right now I have a savings account that Ive had for a really long time which Ive been waiting to use for a situation exactly like this, while my mother argued that I shouldn't use it for a pointless vacation. The conflict was pretty one sided, as you could imagine, but still isn't entirely resolved yet. Although, my plans to go to Korea might have to be put on hold for now.
ReplyDeleteA few things I learned was; when grouped with people who are open to discuss out their point of view helps the tension levels remain low. It is good to keep several options in case a disagreement arises. Like in the Office how they have three different ways to solve the problem. Most people tend to just blindly keep on arguing for only what they see, which eventually leads the problem solving to nowhere.
ReplyDeleteTwo weeks ago, one of my best friends told me that he didn't want to be friends with me anymore, which shocked me like no other. I didn't understand why he was talking about this all of a sudden. So I made sure we met up and had a talk about what was going on with his life. Turns out that his girlfriend doesn't particularly like me and had told him that she didn't want him hanging out with me. I was already speechless and this just made it worse. For him it was a choice between his girlfriend and best friend. I thought that, that was the last day we would talk, since they had been together for over five years and we met only last August. It was either a win/lose situation or a compromise. Win/lose would mean either the girlfriend or I would have to stop talking to him. Both of us weren't okay with that, so we just agreed that we don't talk as much until the tensions with his girlfriend calm down and he has a chance to talk to her about re-thinking her opinions about me. And so that's where we are now; it's been almost two weeks since we have hung out or talked.
some of the more important things that i did learn from this weeks lesson was that sometimes its not always in the best interest for the desired outcome if you cant make a compromise. also listening to everyones opinions and reasons. one of the most recent ones were at work. i work all thetime and its getting down to crunch time for school. i told them i needed to take some days off in the next couple of weeks so i can work on my homework and final projects. at first they didn't wanna let me because they need. because everyone else is always calling in sick for homework and shit. and it just fustrates me that they wont let me. but i told them i needed to, it was for school and school is my number one priority. so i guess i won and they lost? haha but yeyah
ReplyDeleteI have learned a lot from our class topic: conflict resolution today in class. I also notice it happens to everyone somewhere in varies of shape or form, everyday.
DeleteMy recent occurrence was missing one of my best friend's birthday. Now that we are hitting finals, i just couldn't do it. She was upset at the time but we came to resulting having dinner when I am done with school. This was one of those situations I had to make a (good) sacrifice in order to keep track with what I am suppose to do.
This week of conflict resolution taught me to be a better listener and to allow others to have a input when it comes to resolving conflicts. Also it taught me that how you say things is more important than what you actually say.
ReplyDeleteI was currently involved with a conflict that involved me and my teacher he was trying to give me a C when I deserved a better grade than that. He didn't understand my intention over email which made him become defensive but I apologized to him because he clearly misunderstood what I was trying to say and ultimately he changed my grade.
From the discussion in class I learned that conflict can be resolved in many of ways. you can handle things in a passive aggressive way, a overly aggressive way or you can be legit about it and handle the situation head on, I prefer option three. A recent conflict I have found myself in was just a few days ago there was a schedule error at my work and no one was there to open my store. The result of witch caused major issues concerning corporate and the rest of the district. Everyone was pointing fingers at everyone else and no one would step up and take responsibility so I took charge and investigated into who made the schedule and to who is souly at fault for the mishap. I ended up finding out who had done it and adressed it with them face to face came to a conclusion and moved forward. When you take matters of conflict into your own hands things and handle them strait on they get solved and out of the way as soon as possible.
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